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Aziz Ansari, the Aftermath and Reframing Your Own Story

The following post has sexual content in it by its very subject matter.  Reader beware.  If you are my mum or other family or family friends, you don’t have to read this post.


So I shared a post on Facebook about the shenanigans of Aziz Ansari on Tuesday and it totally blew up.  So I thought I would write a blog post about it.


The Background


I’m not going to go into all the details and semantics about it but you can read the whole post here.  Basically this girl, we know as “Grace”, meets Aziz at the Emmy’s after-party in September and at first, he brushes her off and then they end up exchanging numbers.


She then has high expectations and they go on a date, first meeting up at his apartment for a glass of wine and then off to a restaurant on a boat (pretty damn stylish if you ask me).  After what seems to her as a rushed dinner experience, they go back to his place and he starts to get handsy and kisses her in a grotesque manner.  She pulls away.  He pushes for sex.  She want’s to go slow.  He goes down on her.  She goes down on him.  She feels pressured.  He pulls back before trying again.


(Side note: I once got kicked out of someone’s place for hesitating before going down on them)


Anyway, the blow-by-blow details are written in the original post and suffice to say it is understandable to see why she was/is upset.


Now, this happened all in September.  The reason why the general public knows about it is that she saw Aziz on TV at the Golden Globes wearing a #TimesUp pin.  She felt the need to point out that he was a hypocrite or a wolf in sheep’s clothing by going to the media with her story.




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